Tuesday Teaching!
This weeks Tuesday Teaching comes to you with a little help from my favorite celebrity motivational speaker....Will Smith!
While having one of our many random car conversations, my girl and I discussed the unconditional love we should receive from our parents. How not having that for any reason can have negative impacts on our perception of ourselves and our relationships with others. Again, using my own experience and being honest about how the loss of my father effected me and my happiness. How it also led me to the impossible quest for that unconditional love. She asked "how do you deal with that?" My response: Feeling really crappy and let down for 27 or so years and then working through all those feelings when I realized I needed help.
Thankfully, through the process of seeking out the help I needed I came to the realization along with many other things that no one else can give us the unconditional love we receive from our parents. Our worth does not hinge on someone else's feelings for us. Our own happiness is our responsibility alone. Knowing that and moving forward in life with that knowledge and knowing my worth has made a world of difference for me and my relationships.
I had seen Will Smith's video on love and happiness several months ago. It popped up again the same day we had our conversation, I thought to myself YES! YES! YES! Will's words couldn't be more on point!!
Give it a watch and fill up your own damn cup of happiness!!!
[embed]http://https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMZ2aNnJdx8[/embed]
So weird (ok not really since this is how we roll) that you posted this now because I've been thinking about this a lot lately since Lonnie has been doing his woods stuff. The little girl in me didn't feel that parental unconditional love, and as a result and always feels like she's going to be abandoned because she is not enough. Lonnie's outside interests, particularly the ones that take him away from me, are seen as a threat because they mean he is going to lose interest in me and leave. Which is cray cray.... and fortunately I recognize and am dealing with this ;-)
ReplyDeleteGood that you are dealing with it!! My little girl inside ruled my world for way too long!
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